Then the
family is left by itself for the most important part of the meeting,
the private family time, when it will make a plan to help
the child or young person. Nearly always these plans are far more
creative and wide ranging than any made by a group of professionals
who do not have the intimate knowledge and life-time commitment
of Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, etc and close friends.
The third part of the
meeting is when everyone comes back together to agree the plan
and formalise the commitment to it. Nearly all plans are agreed
by everyone at this stage. The family arranges a time to meet again
and assess how well the plan is going and any changes that may
need to be made.
The meeting is nearly always
held in a neutral place, where the family wants it to happen and
feels most comfortable. This can be in a community centre for instance.
There is always a meal, which indicates both the importance and significance
of the meeting and is a normal and positive way in which families
celebrate being together. |